FLIP A COIN

When you flip a coin, the result may not be in your hands whether it is a head or tails but the coin is always in your hand. So if you don’t get the result you wanted then just flip the coin ;)

Similarly in our lives, we may not always get the results as we desire but the way we perceive the result is always in our hands. When something seems to be going wrong or not in our favor, just turn your perception upside down and view it something as in your favor.

One point is that everyone everywhere has some or the other problems in their lives. But the way we deal them is all that matters! If we see problems as problems, they will turn like ghosts and haunt us. But if you flip the coin and treat them as lessons for our beautiful future, they will form milestones for our lives. After all, what is a destination without a meaningful journey at every milestone :D

Like that Nescafe advertisement, where the guy stammers and people rejects him as a stand-up comedian. But he uses the same stammering as ‘buffering’ concept and makes people laugh with his jokes. That's what is called as ‘Attitude’. If you fail every time you try, then no need to keep cribbing or crying about it. Flip the coin and consider it as an experience for your next trial. After all, Edison was successful only after 999 attempts.

You may lose everything including money, home, job, people etc because of some situations in life. But if you don’t lose your attitude at any moment, anything can be faced with utmost pleasure and joy. For the stone to become an idol, it should bear many beatings. So right now or anytime in your life, if you face continuous failures or stress points, stop worrying and just flip the coin. It may not be as easy as I say, but is definitely possible and effective.

“Nothing can hurt you or affect you without your consent”. So whatever it may happen, just perceive it in your favor. After all, it’s your life to live as you wish. Mistakes may happen but they can be turned to lessons only with your attitude. Don’t worry…just flip the coin ;)

10 THINGS YOU EXPERIENCE WHEN YOU ARE PART OF A GANG

1. Each person with his unique character.

2. You will not be left alone at any time, even when you want to be :P

3. Birthday plans and celebrations are at their best.

4. At least one cute couple in the gang ;)

5. You can't escape party treats :P

6. Little fights between any two in the gang become a hot topic.

7.  You can't hide any secrets from them since they know all about you including your phone passwords...

8.  Lots of talent together.

9. Group studies during exams.

10. Finally they share all your feelings and become a huge support when needed the most. :)

EMPATHY

 "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle”

                                                                          -Plato

         
            This quote is well understood when you face such a situation in life. Isn’t it good if someone listens to you without judging anything and just trying to step into your shoes? If it feels good then why can’t we be the same towards others also?

          

           ‘Empathy’ may not just be listening and trying to understand others pain. Sometimes it can be just lending your shoulder to cry on as solace. One may feel better just by crying on your shoulder without even talking about one’s problem. In fact, not forcing the other person to talk about their problems when they are not willing to open up is also empathy.

                

            We never know what the other person is going through in his/her life. Like F. Scott Fitzgerald said “Whenever you feel like criticizing any one...just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.” They may be struggling in their personal lives more than you. And just because someone doesn’t behave in a right manner, we can’t judge their attitude. In such incidents only, our maturity should show up. The ability to stay calm and understand the other person’s pain turns the negative situation to a manageable one with the positive energy you generate by being empathetic.

                

       To be empathetic to others, one should be kind to himself first. Never talk negative about yourself. The self-image you portray about yourself gives you the poise and self-confidence which lead to higher level of maturity. When you are confident about yourself, even though others behave rude to you, it won’t hurt you. In fact, your thoughts try to cultivate in an empathetic manner towards the other person as to try to understand the other person’s feelings in a positive way. Hence being good to oneself is very important to be empathetic to others.

                

       Human relations are very sensitive and be it personal or professional life, it is important to maintain balance of mind while dealing with people. It all starts from within you by loving and respecting yourself and then develops the ability to perceive others’ feelings also on the same wavelength as of yours. So be good, do good, say good and ultimately you will feel good J

MAGIC OF MUSIC

“I often think in music, I live my daydreams in music. I see my life in terms of music.”

                                                                                                                          -Albert Einstein

                   

This quote is stuck in my mind because even I feel the same; think in music, live in music and see life in music.  Who doesn’t feel good if our thoughts match with Einstein? :D

All those music lovers must be thinking the same, isn’t it? Have you ever imagined a beautiful background music when you are happy? A violin in background when you are sad? Or probably songs like ‘Aaoge jab tum ho saajna’ sort of :P . Sounds funny, but gives relief when we are in that mood.

                

There are many schools of thought on Music therapy which say that music has the power to heal your pain both physical and emotional. Even a child can connect to the sweetness of music. There goes a Sanskrit sloka:

         “Sishurvethi Pashurvethi 

          vethi ganam phaneem rasaha” 

           meaning

                                 “Music has the power to enthrall a child and an animal alike”.

That’s why may be music is called ‘Divine’. It’s like food for our soul and spirit giving immense pleasure and energy.

                

Do you know that the kind of music we listen to also determines the mood of a person? Or vice-versa- Based on our mood swing, we may choose the kind of music. But sometimes listening to sad and gloomy music when we are in such a mood helps us to soothe our pain and flush out our feelings (Ye..kya huva..kaise huva..kab huva…kyon huva..jab hua,tab hua..oh chodo,yeh na socho). Also listening to peppy music boosts our senses and acts as energizer (Superr machi… :D). Melodies are of their own type (Ye rate..ye mausam..nadii ka kinaraa…). They define many feelings without the need of expressing a single word J

So next time when you are thinking of any gift to your parent’s wedding anniversary or a birthday gift or a wedding gift or may be a casual gift to someone special, try giving a collection of their favorite songs. If you can sing, a dedicated song with your own karaoke makes a very special gift :). Because at the end of the day, music itself is special in any form; be it an instrument or vocal or karaoke or just a simple jingle.

                

For any incident of our life or just causally also, music helps soothe our mind and heart. Tune to your favorite music always and see the world with a background music. Music is anywhere and everywhere if we have the heart to realize.

                                   "There’s music in the sighing of a reed...

                                    There’s music in the gushing of a rill...

                                   There’s music in all things, if men had ears

                                  The earth is but the music of spheres.”

                                                                                            - Byron

Trust me! It gives a sense of pleasure and a new feel for life :). So what are you waiting for? Go tune yourself. La la la…..hmm..hmm..hmmm… 

MISSING TILES

         Imagine in our office or classroom, if one tile is missing on the ceiling. Does your concentration go on the missing one or the other well placed ones? Well! In this case, our observation goes to the missing tile only so that we can repair or fix it. But if we apply the same to our lives, there will always be some ‘Missing tiles’ and Life can’t be perfect with all the well-placed tiles.

               

      Each one of us have dreams, desires, achievements, sad happenings, happy moments etc. But most of the times, we keep on thinking of the ‘missing tiles’ in our life like

•          A bald head man observes hair first in any person he meets and feels sad that he doesn't have hair.
•          A short person observes height in the new person he meets and feels bad about his height.
•          A person who dreams of having an own car observes the same in  the others
•          An  unemployed graduate first notices whether the other person is employed or not.
•         The life style of a rich man is the first thing a poor man notices and thinks about.
•          A girl/boy who is unmarried observes the marital status of the people she/he meets.

         There are many more incidents of this sort that every one of us might have faced at some point of in our lives. I don’t say that it is a bad thing to think about the missing tiles in the life. But I can surely say that we lose our peace of mind and happiness in this process.  Because the stresses and worries in life are like a glass full of water. It’s not the weight of the water glass that hurts our hand, it’s about how long we hold that glass. The longer we hold, the more hurting it is. Hence remember to keep the glass down.

         Some missing tiles in our lives can be fixed/ repaired with hard work or right decisions. But some cannot be changed. So it’s better to accept those missing ones and feel blissed for the well placed ones for a better and happier life :) 

RENEW YOUR MEMORIES TO REJUNEVATE

       Have you ever tried to memorize and travel back to those wonderful memories of your past when you are really sad? Have you experienced the joy of reliving your happiest moments of past life again in your mind? Well! This thought struck my mind when I had a fight with my friend. I started to feel sad, negative thoughts came in my mind to intensify the fight. But then I tried to memorize the happy and beautiful moments we spent together and my mind started soothing off from the bad mood. My anger started disappearing slowly when I relived those moments. I felt “Saying sorry” is such a small thing in front of the valuable friendship we had and we came back to the pavilion again :)

       This can be the case with many of us. When our moods go wrong because of something, we keep sinking ourselves in those thoughts. But rather if we can go back to our memory, it can amazingly change our thoughts and give a sense of positive feeling.

Some random thoughts can be:

•    In case of any fight with your friend/Girl/Boy Friend/closed ones , imagine the time you had a big chat with them about any stupid topic, it makes you smile immediately
•   Listen to those songs which gave you a special feeling in the past. Relive that feeling again and it feels like heaven.
•   Imagine that moment when you have received your first gift from someone you admire/ love the most.
•     Do that one thing which you used to like a lot but left it as the time passed. It can be riding a cycle, doodling your own imagination, just take a long drive, reading that one book which you always wanted to read, go to music classes and I leave it to your own thoughts J
•    Call your old school friend with whom you haven’t spoke for years. He / She gives a lot of news about your mutual friends and renewing your good old memories can be nothing like anything.

      Those times you spent roaming together with your loved ones, those funny incidents from your classroom, that rain which you enjoyed to its fullest, that excitement of first day of office and many more. It’s all your own beautiful life’s memories that you want to relive and feel so intense as if you have done a time travel :)

DISCOVERY OF SELF

Have you ever thought of the only person on this earth with whom you spend the most of your time???

Well! It’s none other than “YOURSELF” only.  You are the only person with whom you spend every moment of your life with. Most of the times, we are worried of other people’s lives, problems, stress etc, But have you ever thought of how much you like yourself? How well you treat yourself? How much you care about yourself?

We live in a world where everything is fast, furious and competitive. Man is a social being. To be successful, it is important to have inter personal skills. But like there is a saying that “Charity begins at home, Love also should begin with one’s own self”. If you are successful at this art, you will be a great success in life also. We have so many problems in our mind that we never realize the wonderful person inside us. We never talk to him/her often (at least seldom).

Be it our mother or father or siblings or best friends or girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse, everyone’s role in our life is only to an extent. At some point of life, we have to face some situations on our own. Our friends and family can only share our pain and support as much as they can, but ultimately what you go through is to be felt by ‘YOU’ alone. Any pain in your body can be felt only by you, some hurdles in life have to be faced by you, and challenges at work place are to be dealt by you. Even the closest person in life can walk with us but not for us. Hence we need to develop the person inside us to deal with some odds of life.

It’s not that the concept of being alone is needed only to face challenges in life. Sometimes you need a break even though everything is going right in life. Spending some time with ourselves recharges our mind. It helps to think about our own selves and discover the potential inside us. It helps to renew your hidden skills and rejuvenate yourself with confidence. Being alone need not mean being lonely and an introvert. It can also be a kind of relaxation to your own self from the daily routine.

It’s all about how you treat yourself that reflects on how you perceive others also. If you are happy with yourself, then only you can spread happiness to others. Try it!  Start thinking about the beautiful person inside you that you forgot and fall in love with your life again ;)!!